How to Find Love | Chantal Heide | My Instruction Manual

How to Find Love with Chantal Heide

Chantal Heide, author of seven books about relationships reveals the secret to finding love. And host Keith McArthur speaks with mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson about Metta Meditation.

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Episode 25 Show Notes

[00:00] Welcome and Intro

[1:05] Featured interview with Chantal Heide

Chantal Heide, a dating coach who has written several books on dating and relationships including No More Assholes: Your 7 Step Guide to Saying Goodbye to Guys and Finding the Real Man You’re Looking For. Chantal’s latest book — Dating 101: Understanding the Drive,s Behaviours and Emotions Behind Love — debuted last week.

In this conversation, Keith and Chantal discuss:

  • Chantal’s own dating struggles [1:37]
  • Meditation as the secret to finding love [3:12]
  • Keith about how he feels stress build up when he takes a break from meditation [6:53]
  • When we know what we want in a relationship, we’ll find that the right person is put in our path [8:50]
  • The difference between “guys” and “men” [10:05]
  • How expectations can kill relationships [11:54]
  • It’s impossible to make other people happy [15:50]
    • Scroll down for the Will Smith video Chantal references
  • Why Chantal wanted to write a book for teenagers [17:38]
  • Chantal’s “no kissing for three months” rule [18:32]
    • Chantal mentions “phenylethylamine”

[21:15] Chantal’s Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [21:39]

  • Meditation
  • A paleo diet with an emphasis on plants

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [22:24]

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [23:31] 

  • “I surrender.”

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [25:31]

  • Watching cat videos

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [25:59]

  • As a revolutionist, someone who caused a shift in relationships

[27:10] Where to find Chantal

[28:22] Mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson on Metta meditation

Joelle Anderson is a therapist specializing in mindfulness meditation and creator and host of the Kernel of Wisdom YouTube channel.

In this conversation, Keith and Joelle discuss:

  • Metta Meditation = Love and Kindness Meditation = Compassion Meditation [28:50]
  • How to do Metta meditation [30:22]
  • Metta m editation can feel like prayer [32:54]
  • Where to find Joelle [34:05]

[35:27] Closing words

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